Have not read this book but in looking through it briefly found this quote about coaching I though was great.
The best image for coaching is a vehicle. The word coach derives from an old British word meaning “horse-drawn carriage.” You can think of a coaching process as a journey, one in which you are caught up in the process as you move toward a specific, targeted destination. The coach’s goal is to help you find direction and enjoy the ride.
While you are being coached, you make the choices. You’ll decide where you want to go; the coach will help you get there. The coach can tell you in advance little of the journey but only what the coaching process will look like, the details about the journey will unfold as you engage in the experience.
Tom Bandy says, “Christian coaching in the post-modern world needs to step beyond the boundaries of control established by past Christendom. Openness to mastery and receptivity to the irrational and unexpected, and readiness to be seized, shaken and stirred by an ultimately unknowable God are not virtues that Christian churches normally excel.” The mastery of the unexpected is a fabulous journey that the Christ-Centered coach will help you experience.
Most often a bad coaching experience is not the problem of the coach but of the person being coached. A coach is not a genie or a therapist a coach will help you get to where you are already headed faster. If you are interested in a great coach two very close friends of mine do coaching. Check out their stuff and do yourself a favor get a vision, get a dream, get going THEN get a coach.
Jesus doesn’t need our help, he’s pretty famous. He needs humble servants to live in a way that makes famous people want what they can’t have. We need to lose ourselves in spreading His fame not obsessing over how our fame can help Him out. Through our desire for personal fame we have made Jesus infamous to a watching world.
There are a few sayings in christianese (the language Christians speak) that grate at me. One of those is the saying “Make Jesus Famous.” It may just be a me thing. Some times God allows me to be frustrated with something because He is after something in me. It seems that many people in the Christian world are tagging photos of things they are proud of in ministry with the hash tag #makingjesusfamous Here’s the problem. I can’t see their heart but God can. So I’m not sure if they are actually doing what the bible would consider fame worthy.
As a child of the 70′s I grew up 80′s where baby boomers were loving life, loving love and loving themselves. This translated to every area of life including their parenting. The seeds of self-esteem were laid by my parents generation and have taken full root in my generation. It’s this idea that kids need to have a positive outlook in life, they need to love themselves. While in limited ways this can be true the pervasiveness of this idea is killing the collective conscience of our country and is ruining our kids.
Today Christians are often too quick to abandon their church, organization, small group, friend or spouse when the going gets tough. People would rather split than go through the frustrations of working through the problems. This tendency results in shallow relationships, which in turn result in minimal depth to the fruit of their labors. In fact, learning to pay the price of commitment is a key to developing deep fruit in ministry anywhere in the world.