I hope you can join me at the napkin conference this year. I will being doing a talk on collaborating with others called “Stop, Collaborate and listen” Still toying with the idea of shaving lines into my right eyebrow but we will see.
Here is why you should go.
1. Great price
2. I’ve know Pastor Benny (He’s the lead pastor of the church that puts on the Napkin Conference.) for 15 years. He is an amazing leader who has a passion for the local church.
3. You will have lots of time to talk with and pick the brains of people like Jim Wideman, Dave Wakerley, and Ryan Frank
4. With all sessions being general sessions you will have time to share ideas and dreams with other kids pastors just like you.
5. If you register now the first 10 people that register and mention you come from samluce.com I will give you a copy of a book I co-wrote with Jim Wideman, and 6 other kidmin leaders when it releases in April.
6. Lastly but not leastly if your Administrator or Sr. Pastor are giving you a hard time about going try staging a flash mob at your next staff meeting. Here is a great little idea for said flash mob. Your Welcome.
Really excited to be apart of the Napkin Conference – I love the vision of this conference. To be a conference that is more about helping people clarify and even facilitate the dreams, ideas and visions God has given folks to do ministry different.
I’m really excited about going to Napkin for a few reasons.The first is the speaking line up they are all children’s pastors currently serving in a local church. I am a huge fan of hearing other kids guys who are still doing the work of the ministry not just retelling war stories of years past. To me how many of the speakers are currently pastors is a major part of what makes me decide to go to a conference. I am a huge believer in the local church. I believe that the church is God’s idea and is the vehicle he uses to reach a lost and dying world.
I also really like the fact that Napkin is going to be a bit smaller than other conferences to me that’s an advantage because it gives you more opportunities to have conversations with kidmin legends like Jim Wideman, Dave Wakerley, and Ryan Frank If you are coming to napkin or thinking about it use this opportunity to connect with those guys but also with other kidmin leaders who are attending.
Lastly I love the general session only thing. I have never been to a kidmin conference but I think I am really going to like having a shared experience. I love conferences with breakouts but being able to hear all the speakers and process everything together is going to be steller. Can’t wait.
I am reading a book about leading teams this chapter on fear vs. curiosity got me thinking about how I lead and the importance of staying curious as a leader.
We often coach two very different kinds of leaders. The first is not curious and, I would say, is often driven by fear. Whenever observations and feedback are given, the uncurious leader responds with defensiveness and rationalizations. With these leaders there are no questions, only hurt silence, quiet passivity, or statements designed to protect themselves.
The second type of leader is curious. These leaders respond from a position of wanting to gather information and trying to understand. Whether it is negative feedback, a missed opportunity, or the future direction of the organization, this leader is interested and inquisitive, wondering not if this will be solved, but how.
So what is the connection between curiosity and fear? It seems that when one increases, the other decreases. Perhaps it is not a lack of curiosity that makes us fearful, but fear that prevents us from being curious. Or maybe it’s the other way around. The good news is that without solving the riddle of the chicken and the egg, I think we can tackle it from either end.
Fear produces poor leadership and poor leadership produces bad organizations.
Here are some questions I am asking my self to make sure I am not leading out of fear.
1. Am I asking more questions than I am answering?
2. Am I looking for input or vaildation?
3. Am I willing to take risks that will make me look foolish?
4. Do I filter ideas by thinking if this will get me in trouble or fired?
5. Am I approachable?
6. Can my team say anything to me without fear of reprisal from me?
7. Do I still find joy in the simple things?
8. Am I always looking for a better way to do something that works?
9. Am I empowering others to lead and giving them the space to fail so they can succeed?
Don’t lead out of fear. There are far to many leaders in to many churches that do this. We call it by other names but it’s core is fear. Lead couragously lead curiously. Build a team, take the blame share the glory.