What has lead me to think, talk and now blog about grief. Well one year ago this week one of the kids from our children’s church died suddenly from the flu. It was incredibly tragic. I still remember walking into the hospital totally unprepared for how much my life was going to be effected.
I have been to many wakes and even recently my Grandfathers funeral. But this was in a completely different league. I walked in and the young boy had just passed away. It was one of the hardest if not hardest things for me personally. I can’t tell you why I was so profoundly effected. Even today as I write this post I am very emotional.
What made this death so disturbing was that he was a healthy boy, who had a great family who loved him cared for him. He was only 5 years old and his parents did EVERYTHING a parent could, would and should do. But he still died. What made this so difficult to deal with is that none of my built in pat answers fit, “he lived a long good life”, “he is out of his suffering now”. I had no way to tell myself there was a reason in all of this. Which lead me to ask over and over Why God. If you can do anything Why?
It has been a rough year. I have asked many hard questions of myself and others. I have been asked many questions I don’t know the answers to and don’t think I ever will. I have even doubted at times God’s ability to be greater than my doubt, circumstances, and fears. But in my doubt I believe that God is building an even greater faith. A faith based on position more than condition.
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Thanks for posting this. My wife and I have really went through the same questioning and have failed to find a reason on our own. It still doesn’t make sense and it probably won’t while we are here on this earth. Like you, I was affected by this probably more than any other event in my life….
Wow. I cannot fathom the challenge of walking a family through something like this. God says He's strongest in our weakness. I think our weakest point is when we can't explain His actions. Hang in there.
Wow. I cannot fathom the challenge of walking a family through something like this. God says He’s strongest in our weakness. I think our weakest point is when we can’t explain His actions. Hang in there.