Creating an Intimate Marriage –
Church was Jim’s mistress –
1. Have a non-negotiable date night weekly.
2. We would only be out three nights a week.
3. Gave his wife veto power over his schedule
We have confused priorities – We have attractive distractions
Intimacy isn’t just about sexuality it’s about connection you connect with time and priorities – You have to schedule your priorities – It affects our ministry in a positive way.
Biggest priority in ministry families – we are under connected and over committed. You can’t have a strong marriage in this mode. We are running to hard.
Is the work of God I’m doing destroying the work that God wants to do in me.
We have to be ruthless transparent about our own brokenness.
Henry Cloud – If the tooth is infected pull it. Don’t pull the marriage pull the infection.
As Christians to make sure we give and receive forgiveness
Eph 5:21 – Submit to each other in love. – The goal of marriage is to outlive each other. That’s about priorities –
What’s right about our marriage
What’s wrong about our marriage
What’s missing about our marriage
What’s confusing about our marriage
Most marriage break up because of poor communication.
AWE – Affection, Warmth and Encouragement
1. Date night – Be proactive put energy into it. – Have the disciple to not talk about your work or family.
2. Do a weekly business meeting. – Do it all at once – 1hr.
3. Spiritual Time – Be intentional – 20min a week – Read scripture and pray for kids
There is pain in life the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.