One of the points Nancy made was that community is not perpetual niceness. I think this is one of the things that hurts the church the most. We are perceived as Ned Flanders, or anyone on TBN.
Community is not us pretending that everything is ok. That’s pseudo-community.
I think the best definition I have heard of community is that community is knowing someone’s good, bad and ugly and yet you still love them just the same.
This is where I think the church has lost out on community, to pool halls, civic events and bars. People want to go where everybody knows your name.
In the name of community we put on a face of perpetual niceness and call it community people looking for real community call it fake. We need to be real and find others who we can be real with.
I am lucky I have community. I have people who I can be real with who I can go beyond perpetual niceness. They love me and wish God’s best for me they believe in what God has for me. I also have people who see the bad and the ugly. But that’s for tomorrow.