The focus on contribution by itself supplies the four basic requirements of effective human relations;

1. Communications
2. Teamwork
3. Self-Development
4. Development of others

So profound so true. This is true of every relationship. Every relationship needs these four things.


Developing yourself begins by serving, by striving towards an idea outside of yourself – not by leading. Leaders are not born, nor are they made – they are self-made

To do this, a person needs focus. Michael Kami, our leading authority on business strategy today, draws a square on the blackboard and asks: “Tell me what to put in there. Jesus? Or money? I can help you  develop a strategy for either one, but you have to decide which is the master.”

I do it by asking people what they want to be remembered for – that’s “The beginning of adulthood” according to St. Augustine. The answer changes as we mature – as it should. But unless that question is asked, a person works without focus, without direction and, as a result, does not develop.

It is remarkable that the Scriptures talk so often about “forbearance.” They are capable of expressing the whole work of Jesus Christ in this one word. “Surely he has borne our infirmities and carried our diseases … upon him was the punishment that made us whole” (Isa. 53).15 Therefore, the Bible can characterize the whole life of the Christian as carrying the cross. It is the community of the body of Christ that is here realized, the community of the cross in which one must experience the burden of the other. If one were not to experience this, it would not be a Christian community.

– Dietrich Bonhoeffer