15 Years of marriage!


Today I celebrate 15 years of marriage to my beautiful wife Sandra. When you have been married to someone for 15 years you really begin to know them.  I am grateful to say that I am more in love with Sandra today 15 years from the day we said “I do.” We have trust, love and forgiveness that only is a result of our trust in a Savior that both loves us and forgives us far more than we deserve. There are so many things about my wife I love an appreciate but if I could boil them all down to one thing it would be that she loves me. Every girl I had met before her liked the thought of me more than actually loving me for me. I love that Sandra loves me for me. When I fall short, when I fail and when I succeed she rejoices and cries with me.

I could not ask for a better partner in life, ministry and the Gospel. She is my proofreader, my stupid thought squasher, my cheerleader, my comforter, my refuge in tough times. She is my lover, my friend and I grow in my love for her as I have the privilege to daily lay my life down for her.

Sandra if there is one idol I struggle with more than anything it would be you and our kids. I continue to ask God for the grace to love you and our kids in a way that is found in Him. That He would be my treasure and as He is everything to us that our love for each other would only grow sweeter.

Baby you mean the world to me!

5 way to survive a bad meeting.


If you are a leader on any level for better or worse meetings are a part of your life. it’s unavoidable. I am not going to tell you how to do a good meeting Patrick Lencioni does a far better job than I ever could in his book “Death By Meeting.” It’s a must read for any leader.

I have also blogged about why no one comes to your meetings.

What I want to cover is how to survive bad meetings. Bad meetings do more damage than we realize. Bad meetings produce silos, mavericks and rebels. Bad meetings tend hurt more organizations than anything else. It’s often in a bad meeting that energy and vision is crushed and conformity is pushed. Bad meetings force people to abandon the ship of team and jump on the life raft of department.

Looking for Curriculum? Let Brian Dollar “HELP”

I met Brian Dollar a couple of years ago and was so impressed by his down to earthness and his transparency. You meet Brian and right away you feel like you have known him forever. I read his book “I blew It” where he shares some hilarious and insightful children’s ministry experiences. His passion for kids ministry and providing resources is apparent.

He asked me to let you know about some redesigned and recently updated materials he making available. The first of the redesigned curriculum is a series called “HELP”.

3 things having no cell phone has taught me

cell Phone off

I have been a mac evangelist since 1997 the way Steve Jobs thinks blows me away. Here’s the thing. I use my iPhone for everything it has to be the single greatest innovative thing Apple has ever done. I am rarely without my iPhone. I left for Australia a couple of weeks ago and if you know anything about international roaming fee you know that it forces you to look for wifi hotspots with the same frivolity I search for the coffee first thing in the morning. I arrived back home in the states my phone starts doing weird stuff, dropping calls, showing no services then out of nowhere it heats to ear scalding temperatures and starts dropping it’s charge even when plugged in. Once the phone had fully discharged it’s battery it was not turning on and was not responding to being plugged into a computer or to the wall. So I am without a phone for the next few days.

It’s actually been a good thing.

Here are the 3 things I have learned by not having a cell phone.

Just back from Kidshaper


Just got back from Kidshaper in Melbourne Australia. What a great time. Was so challenged in so many ways. It was a massive flight and the longest I have been away from my wife and kids but totally worth it. There are few things like getting out of your comfort zone or 15 time zones to give you fresh insight and perspective on the things you are doing well and the things you are not doing so well.

So enjoyed meeting so many people and making so many new friends. If you are in Australia you need to be there next year. You will not be the same!